5 Ways To Become LESS Busy. You know, I don’t think I have EVER heard the phrase: “I’ve got all the time in the world…nothing to do…man, this is relaxing!” Nope. Never heard that one.
Why do we all think that being hellishly busy is something to be proud of? I think sometimes it maybe gives me a sense of importance, that sooooo many things require my attention. The breaking point was yesterday when 5 year old Zoe, our miracle baby, was clamoring to sit on my lap. I was suddenly furious at her. I had SO. MUCH. TO. DO. and this kid was bugging me!
Let’s examine this, shall we? I was mad at the baby I love more than life because she wanted to cuddle.
What in the heck is wrong with me?
I vowed right then to become less busy, even if it meant being ruthless. Here’s 5 steps I took yesterday, see if any of these work for you:
- Learn to say no. This is key. If you can’t say no, you will take on too much. I suck at this. I want everyone to be happy. But now I’m not happy. Neither is Zoe.
- Evaluate your time. How do you spend your day? What things do you do, from the time you wake up to the time you go to sleep? Make a list, and evaluate whether they’re in line with your priorities. If not, eliminate the things that aren’t, and focus on what’s important.
- Make a list of your top 4-5 important things. Seriously, what is most important to you? What do you value most? What 4-5 things do you most want to do in your life? Simplifying starts with these priorities.
- Simplify home tasks. Think about all the stuff you do at home. What can you live with? A little dust? Not decorating for every single holiday? Focus on the most important, and try to find ways to eliminate the other tasks.
- Limit your communications. Our lives these days are filled with a vast flow of communications: email, IM, cell phones, paper mail, Skype, Twitter, Facebook and every other electronic leash you can think of. I used to be proud of the fact that I actually slept with my iPhone in my hand. Not joking, here. It can easily take every moment of our day if we let it. My goal now is to check work and website email only twice a day. Check messages and return calls once a day. And so on. This one is going to be the hardest for me, I won’t lie.
When you finally do have say, 5 minutes of spare time–do NOT freak out! Don’t suddenly busy yourself with another task–I’m sure there’s plenty. Instead, sit for a minute, take a breath. Look around. Examine what you’re feeling and what you’re thinking. If we’re very lucky, what we’ll be feeling is…peace.